Does anybody make real shit anymore?

I had a conversation with a co-worker about “friends” and what that term means now a days. He believes people aren’t really interested in connecting on a deeper than surface level now a days.  Everyone’s too busy for that.

 

I mean, really investing into other people for the long-term - with the exception of their significant other.

 

In our text me-don’t call, social media, tinder, bumble- swipe your life away era we live in - is it true?

 

Even in my own personal life ... the majority of the friends I’ve made feels situational, transactional or based on something that isn’t really solid.

 

People ask me how I’m doing all the time.... but it’s not too many people who’s gonna sit with you for a couple of hours and listen for the real answers.

 

I have friends and people around who tell me they love me damn near every time they do see me (which isn’t much) and honestly - I have a hard time believing them. I find myself asking the question - well is it them or is it me? Probably both.

 

I’m always asking ....  Do you really care or you just being nosey? How do you tell the difference? Nobody tells you how to vet the people you let in your life...

 

I’ve been done dirty by people who said they loved me... like we all have. I’m still figuring who really got love for me and who’s just around for what’s to come.

 

How can you say you love someone when you don’t really know them? That requires work and real time. The good, the bad and the ugly. Conversations with space for both of us to be very real. Some questions you may not like and some info and some  answers you might not understand. I can’t just move in your world... you have to be able to move in mine as well.

 

People don’t want to be close, they want to be comfortable.

 

 

People now a days just strike me like “You’re great until you stop acting a certain way and doing the things I want you to do.”

 

I have my part to play in this thing so I’ll take my credit... it’s hard to build with someone who you don’t really see. I definitely be out the way a lot... I’m just working and figuring out my life at this point.

 

Every person I meet I’m like.... in this relationship - Do I keep it 1000 or do I play politics?

 

People say oh just keep it real... but there’s a time and place for everything and everything doesn’t need to be said.

 

I’m a lot. People are a lot.

 

Life is very much a people game ... can’t deal with em & cant deal without em....

 

I’m out.

-LR

Build Something For Yourself.

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Society tells you to fuck with everything and everyone except for yourself

 

I believe that everyone in America should have a business for themselves and the people they care about. That's just my own personal philosophy. 

We live in a capitalistic world. Now more than ever, you have access to the tools to build something - anything for yourself. Now, will it sell? Will it work? That's a different conversation entirely - but don't be so quick to take your ideas to the grave. Ask yourself: What's your contribution to the world? Are you here to help or are you just existing? Everyone has things they think about doing - but never really do bc of ___ (insert excuse here).

People might need or want that idea, that product, that service that's in your head you've been sitting on for years.

 

Nobody says this when your small or starting out but: your contribution matters.

 

Building something for yourself gives you a sense of empowerment. It gives you confidence and a sense of ownership and control over your reality. (or maybe that's just me)

 

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Whatever your thing is - DO IT.  It might not be the right time, you might not know the right people, etc etc etc - but plan it out and make moves so you can DO IT.

 

Key: Shine your light. You might not see it right now but someone - somewhere needs it.

 

This little light of mine..... lalalala

till next time ladies and gentlemen. 

-LR 

 

 

 

Overconsumption. Are You Full Yet?

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The world. The internet. It's 24 hours a day, 7 days a week - The constant bombardment of things, people, and stuff all for your attention and energy. 

Be aware and guard your energy with your life. The things you give your attention to will grow in your life - for the better or worse. 

 

  • TV = Watching other peoples lives.
  • Social = Watching other peoples lives.
  • News = Watching other peoples lives.
  • Games = Watching (fake) peoples lives.
  • Porn = Watching other peoples sex lives.

 

Don't get so caught up in other people lives - that you forget about your own.

We're all product of the things we consume - from the food we eat that shapes our bodies, to the media and books we consume that affects our mind, to the people and relationships we have within our lives. 

So why does it seem like everyone is stressed, anxiety-ridden, overworked, exhausted?

 

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I got the answer - overconsumption of fucking EVERYTHING. We're eating too much shit from the world. 

 

If you feel like this - especially consistently - it's potentially a sign from your mind to slow things down and re-evaluate. (Don't be lazy as fuck though

 

Sometimes you just gotta take a break from things and turn your phone off, not chill with anyone, refresh and relax. This world will run you ragged if you let it and if you don't take care of yourself (mentality, physically, spiritually)  - no one else will.  

On your life's pursuit of whatever you want - make sure you do take the time out FOR YOURSELF. We're fuckin wired to do everything for everyone else and then when it comes to things we need for ourselves and our peace of mind - we put that shit on the backburner - until later becomes never until we crash out. 

 

Key: You can't pour from an empty cup.

 

All I can really say at this point is: Don't EVER forget to take care of yourself.

-LR 

You Can Evolve Yourself Online - If You Pay The Price of Effort and Discipline.

Understand: In this current era of technology - you have a world of information at your fingertips.

Take advantage of it.
 

First things first - if you are on social media - you need to be using IT instead of it using YOU.

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Don't bring your anti-social behavior to social media. You're gonna either adapt to what's happening or get left behind. Social media is about CONNECTING with new people, keeping up with old ones, learning more and pushing what you represent to improve your life and increase your bank account.

There are no excuses online - nobody cares what your background is, it's about are you creating real value and do people wanna pick up what you're putting down. People rant and rave constantly about how social media is ruining us in terms of human connection, and whether you believe that or not - it's empowered you to connect/get access to almost anyone - for free. What you decide to do with the opportunity is 100% up to you. 

Take a step back and REALLY look at the fact that whatever you want to know about ANYTHING - is on the web now.... and if by some random freak accident it's not? You have a blessing in disguise - because you can create it. Look at your parents and realize they didn't have this. 

 

While you're here consider this: 

  • You can learn from some of the most affluent people on the planet.
  • You can travel to other countries (in virtual reality) and see what they are like from a video on youtube and plan it out BEFORE you go. 
  • You can start building real relationships off the web (Trust me, its how I met some of my best friends)
  • If you have a business - you can promote and sell your product, idea, service, and perspective - direct to the consumer across the world.  
  • If you're not as social - you can use the web to connect you with people who are likeminded. 

 

There are no sob stories anymore - If you don't have a computer, you have a cell phone, if you don't have a cell phone - you have a library. 

Put in the effort and discipline online to give you the tools to improve your life. I've personally made 1000's of dollars off the web and although what I was doing didn't last - that's just the power of the internet, social media, and the right information can change your ENTIRE LIFE if you take it seriously. Nothing for real comes without WORK and a fucking lot of it.

 

For yall that are complaining: UNSUBSCRIBE FROM THE BULLSHIT. 

 

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I know I get it.... Trust me I'm on facebook too (@LegendRival) - I see that the majority of people use Facebook as their personal therapist as they complain about their lives (read the previous blog post) but you gotta understand... social media is a remote control and your feed reflects what you decide to tune into. 

 

Let me get you hip to some tools - so you can again: UNSUBSCRIBE FROM THE BULLSHIT.

 

These magical tools are called UNFOLLOW, HIDE, BLOCK, and DELETE! 

 

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So NEXT TIME you see one of your "friends" posting that bullshit. Do the Heizman on that hoe and use one of the wonderful tools above get rid of that hoe. If you too pussy to do it - you deserve what you get. Yup. Straight like that.

Unsubscribe from the bullshit and get your energy right and you'll be much happier I promise. 

Understand: Social Media is a TOOL. You can use this thing for good or evil -  or nothing at all. Like anything else in life, your resources are what you decide to do with em.

 

Key: Dont let the bullshit outweigh the good shit. 

 

Yall be easy and clean up your fuckin feeds. I'll holla.

-LR

 

 

 

 

 

Optimism 101, Choices and How To Handle Shit.

I'd like to consider myself an optimistic person. 

People tend to think that just because you choose to "focus on the positive" that somehow you don't see reality. It's not that at all - understand those optimistic people made a CHOICE to focus on the positive of the situation and what they can personally do about it moving forward.

Negativity and bad things happen to us all - nobody's exempt from life's trials and tribulations despite what you see on social media and what people choose to tell you.  

So here are some actionable tips next time you find yourself in a shitty mood: 

 

1. Find somewhere to clear your head, relax and take a breath.

Go to the bathroom if you have to... fuckin breathe. Even it's just for a couple minutes - this HELPS sometimes you gotta remove yourself from the environment or person that's pissing you off. 

 

2. Have a conversation with a close friend or family member about the situation. (or a therapist)

Sometimes you just gotta get it out and vent. I understand... normally the people in your life will offer you some sort of solution how to handle the situation better or how to move forward.

If they do, TAKE THE ADVICE (if you trust them) - cause clearly if you had the answers... you wouldn't be so pissed off.  Also, if you keep having the same problem with the same situations/people... that shit can get draining REAL fast... calling your people ALL the time - so I'ma need you to bust a move and HANDLE IT (Olivia Pope style). I know people like to wallow in a cesspool of whoa is me but I'ma be straight up real - the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

Long story short - don't drain your people - act out a solution or just exit the situation. 

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3. PAY ATTENTION!!! YOU ALREADY KNEW OR JUST WASN'T PEEPING THE SIGNS !! 

 

****Most problems - with the exception of death from old age - either come from YOUR OWN negligence or just come from dealing with other people bullshit. Straight up.****

 

This is where I keep it 1000% with yall and really get in my bag. 

 

Let's keep it a buck - at some point YOU the person reading this made a choice. You made a choice to put yourself in a situation where the outcome of a situation is pissing you the fuck off.

 

The first thing you NEED to do if you expect to get anywhere is to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your part in the fucked-up-ness that is your situation.  

 

  1. Nobody made you spend all your money in the wrong places. 
  2. Nobody made you fuck that guy or girl raw who you knew was a hoe and end up with chlamydia. 
  3. Nobody made you take that job or career who you hate but "it pays the bills" and nobody made you stay there until it sucked out your entire soul. 
  4. Nobody made you choose your friends (who some of them you don't even like) or your significant other.
  5. Nobody made you indulge in dog shit for food for weeks, months or years.
  6. Nobody made you do drugs, drink alcohol, or smoke cigarettes. 
  7. Nobody made you not ever pick up a book after college. 
  8. Nobody made you have a kid. (Don't blame on the pussy / dick neither.)
  9. ETC ETC ETC

 

Oh, so you mad???  Why?? Your choices lead you to this. 

My point is - NOBODY MADE YOU DO SHIT.  Again - you made a choice!! CHOOSE BETTER.

We all choose wrong sometimes throughout life - it's how we handle our choices moving forward that determines where we end up. 

 

Let's get to the second part of this. OTHER PEOPLE'S BULLSHIT

First things first... Let me start with THIS.

EVERYBODY IS CRAZY AND HAS THEIR SHIT.

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Everybody. Every-fucking-body. Everybody. Everybody. I had to say it four times cause media and disney movies got yall WAY too gassed up like people ain't crazy af out here and shit aint really REAL in these streets. Aint no such thing as normal.

 

Lemme clear some things up:

  • Yes people cheat on their wives and husbands, girlfriends and boyfriends.
  • Yes people be in church praising God on Sunday and doing the most craziest shit that would make your jaw drop Monday-Saturday.
  • Yes people are functioning drug addicts and alcoholics 
  • Yes mental illness is REAL and people really be depressed / wanting to die 
  • Yes dudes be gay with wives and girlfriends (and vice versa) 
  • Yes people present themselves as rich or popping on social media and don't have a dollar to they name. 
  • Yes people have open relationships / other relationships other than monogamous ones 
  • Yes people do be full time hoes and hoettes out here
  • Yes people are scared and very insecure 
  • Yes there are people who live happy lives and they MIND THEY BUSINESS. 
  • Yes nothing is what it seems.

 

Now that I cleared that out the way..... you really gotta pick your poison and decide who's bullshit and stuff you wanna deal with. 

 

Understand: The people you pick to have in your life is critical.

Everyone you know comes with the good, the bad, and the ugly.

 

If you take a step back and really look at things from an aerial perspective you realize: That most other people's problems (unless your married / have a kid with them) have NOTHING to do with you. Help and be there for your people but never to the determent of yourself. If you aren't careful though, people WILL by proximately drag you into their problems and bullshit and that my friends.... if how you end up in fucked up situations with you being pissed off.

At some point people show you who they are, what they're about and if you're paying attention for long enough - you'll be able to see their character. From there you can look at them and ask yourself - does this person have the qualities that I want in my life?

 

Let it be known: Have standards and always remember just because they cross your path doesn't mean they are worthy of being in your life.

 

Like I said... everyone comes with something but it's up to you to make choices that benefit you and to take responsibility for those choices. People DO show you who they are - just pay attention to the signs. 

 

Key: A lot of life is just handling shit and just being smart with how you move out here.
 

Learn how to control your environment and don't let it control you.

-LR 

The "Right" Way.

People will always tell you what they believe is the "right" way to do things based on their perspective... but if you do what you feel right for you-you'll be much happier.

It all starts and ends with you - so make sure your life's design is by your choices - not by everyone else's. We all make our stories as we go along and everyone's aint gonna look the same.